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Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Techniques for Kids

Caitlin Slavens
July 13, 2025

CBT for Kids: Helping Children Handle Big Feelings Without Getting Lost in Them

We often assume emotional struggles are an “adult thing”—that anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, or being overwhelmed is something kids grow into. But here’s the reality check: kids feel it too. Their brains are still under construction, their emotions are all over the place, and they don’t always have the words to say, “I’m not okay.”

That’s where CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) comes in. It’s not just for adults. It’s one of my go-to approaches when working with kids in therapy. Why? Because it gives them real tools to navigate their messy, big, often confusing feelings—and makes those tools kid-sized.

At Couples to Cradles Counselling, we use CBT with children and teens all the time—because it’s not just effective, it’s empowering.

What Exactly Is CBT?

CBT is basically emotional detective work. It helps kids notice how their thoughts shape their feelings and behaviours—and then gives them tools to change what’s not working. When kids understand the link between “what I think,” “how I feel,” and “what I do,” they stop feeling so helpless.

It’s goal-oriented, practical, and easy to apply in real life. Which is gold when you’re working with a seven-year-old who just threw their backpack across the room.

CBT is especially helpful for:

  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Big emotions
  • Low self-esteem
  • Behavioural challenges

Why CBT Works So Well for Kids

Kids don’t always talk about their feelings, but they sure show them. That’s why CBT works—it gives those feelings shape and meaning, then offers tools to manage them. Here’s what makes it so effective:

🧠 It Teaches Emotional Awareness

CBT helps kids connect the dots. “I thought everyone would laugh at me → I felt scared → I didn’t raise my hand in class.” That kind of insight helps them break the loop and try something different next time.

🛠️ It Gives Practical, Everyday Tools

We’re not talking deep philosophical talks. We’re talking “Take three deep breaths before you yell at your sister” and “Let’s reframe that thought before it spirals.” These are skills kids can practice and master.

💬 It Replaces Shame with Empowerment

Instead of “I’m a bad kid,” we work on “I had a tough time managing my frustration today—but I can try again tomorrow.” That shift in self-talk? Huge for a child’s confidence.

🎯 It’s Tailored to How Kids Learn

Games, visuals, stories, and interactive activities help them actually get it. And when kids get it, they start to use it.

The Core Idea Behind CBT: Thoughts → Feelings → Behaviours

Here’s how it plays out:

  • Thoughts: “I’m bad at school.”
  • Feelings: Sad, anxious, discouraged.
  • Behaviours: Avoids homework, zones out in class, maybe melts down at bedtime.

CBT breaks this cycle by helping kids question the original thought and replace it with something more balanced: “I had a hard time today, but I’m still learning.”

Types of CBT Used with Kids

There’s no one-size-fits-all approach. Here are a few types we often use in child therapy:

1. Cognitive Restructuring

Helps kids spot negative thinking (like “Everyone hates me”) and flip it into something more realistic: “Not everyone hates me—my friend talked to me at lunch.”

2. Exposure Therapy

Slowly helps kids face their fears in small, manageable ways. Like being too anxious to go to a birthday party? We might start with walking past the party, then staying for 5 minutes next time, and so on.

3. Behavioural Activation

When kids are feeling down, they tend to pull back from activities. This type of CBT gently nudges them to do things they enjoy—even if they don’t feel like it at first. Mood follows action.

7 Kid-Friendly CBT Strategies We Love

Here’s a peek at the techniques we use (and teach parents to use at home):

1. Thought Journaling

Kids write (or draw) about what happened, how they felt, and what they thought. This helps them see patterns—and gives us something to gently challenge.

2. Cognitive Reframing

We teach kids to shift their thoughts: “I’ll never be good at this” becomes “It’s okay to struggle. I can keep trying.”

3. Behavioural Experiments

Let’s test that fear. “What’s the worst that can happen if you raise your hand?” (Spoiler: Usually not much. And that’s the point.)

4. Relaxation Techniques

Think deep breathing, muscle relaxation, or imagining a cozy, safe place. Perfect for bedtime or before a test.

5. Positive Self-Talk

Instead of saying “I suck at everything,” we teach them to say “This is hard, but I’m learning.” Over time, that becomes their internal voice.

6. Problem-Solving Practice

We help kids break big problems into bite-sized ones. It builds confidence—and shows them they’re more capable than they think.

7. Visualization

Imagining success or safety (“You walking into class feeling calm and ready”) actually helps create those outcomes.

Let’s Be Real: Kids Need Support, Too

If your child seems overwhelmed, anxious, angry, or just not themselves lately, trust your gut. Emotional struggles don’t have to be a normal part of growing up. Therapy isn’t a last resort—it’s a resource.

At Couples to Cradles Counselling, we specialize in working with children and families. Our approach is compassionate, practical, and designed to meet kids where they’re at.

Whether it’s a weekly session or a few skill-building check-ins, we’re here to help your child grow into an emotionally resilient, confident human.

Ready to Learn More?

We offer:

✅ Child therapy (in person in Lethbridge or virtual across Alberta)
✅ Parent consults to support your child’s growth
✅ Therapists trained in CBT and child development

Book a free 20-minute parent consultation and let’s chat about how we can support your child.

Because big feelings don’t have to mean big chaos. And therapy? It’s one of the best investments you will make in your child.

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